Why would your spouse lie about domestic violence?

On Behalf of | Aug 18, 2023 | Domestic Violence

Because of the inherently scandalous nature of domestic violence, an accusation alone can cause irreparable damage to a person’s reputation. A disgruntled spouse might accuse you of domestic violence to seek revenge. They may want to hurt you if they suspect infidelity or to get back at you for the divorce. Your spouse might also have mental health problems that justify their lies. However, that can be an oversimplified perspective.

A spouse can use domestic violence to gain leverage in court during divorce proceedings. The court will not award legal or physical custody to a parent they suspect is capable of violence. The court may also award alimony to your spouse for the fabricated damages and abuse.

What to do if your spouse accuses you of domestic violence

Regardless of the reason behind their false accusations, domestic violence is a crime, and you should act fast to defend your reputation and character. Here are the initial steps you should follow while you build your defense strategy:

  • Avoid being alone with your accuser and have a reliable witness whenever it is necessary to meet with them.
  • Do not attempt to reach out or communicate with the accuser.
  • Abide by the terms and conditions of any temporary court orders, including an injunction for protection against domestic violence.
  • Do not do anything or say anything that can incriminate you in court.
  • Change your passwords so your accuser cannot use your accounts to produce false evidence.
  • Make sure the accuser does not have access to your financial accounts.
  • Stay calm, especially when witnesses are present.
  • Gather evidence to prove you are innocent.

Remember, your spouse created this entire false narrative to make you the bad person. They will be trying to build a case to support their story. They might use any means to make you look guilty, so do not underestimate what they are willing to do.


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